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Guest Blog by Kyle Ruffin
One day, I found myself, as I often do, staring with anger at a woman in the supermarket who was wearing an outfit that was absolutely inappropriate for her. Not only was it too tight, it was clearly designed for a girl half her age. I stared and stared, while my mind devised insults that would put this woman in her place once and for all. If I could just say the right words to her, she’d thank me, run home and set this outfit, and no doubt other hideous attire in her closet, on fire. But of course, that was the least likely outcome. So why was I investing so much emotion in this complete stranger?
How many times a day do you find yourself in this state of mind? Working yourself up over a total stranger or a situation that you either can’t control or doesn’t concern you? When you do, your blood pressure goes up. Your chest tightens. Your heart starts racing. The tension in your face and around your eyes intensifies. Your forehead pinches so much that your eyebrows feel like they might touch. We ALL do it. Waste valuable time and expend angry emotion that benefits no one – especially not ourselves.
We live in a society where passing judgment is truly our favorite pastime. My guess is that’s what makes Reality TV so popular. We can sit on the couch and legitimately judge the ridiculous actions of someone who will have no impact on our lives what so ever. Why do we even care if the Bachelorette sleezes her way through the latest batch of men? Or another has-been TV star has fallen from grace into the clutches of dysfunction.
We’ve been judging others for so long and we do it so often that it’s a reflex. Experts (and I’m no expert) would probably say it’s a hold-over from the human evolutionary period when we needed to make snap judgments about whether the approaching thing was going to eat us. In most cases today, it serves no purpose. Admittedly, there are situations where it’s good to size someone up before they can do us harm. When it comes to superficial judging, we’re better off without it.
I’ve consciously decided to turn the tide by taking control of my mind and emotions in this area. In the same way people use Mindfulness techniques to reduce stress, I’m using these techniques to stop judging others. Since judging is such an involuntary reaction, it’s very hard to head it off at the pass, but as soon as I realize what I’m doing, I just stop. Instantly, I feel the tension melt away. My shoulders lower. My chest unclenches. My disposition lightens and I sometimes even find myself smiling ever so slightly – finding humor in the ridiculousness of self-righteous stance.
Give it a shot. I guarantee you’ll feel the difference.
There are plenty of legitimate reasons to pull out the judgment card. So, if that heart-racing, brow-squinching feeling is something you crave, just wait a few minutes. Real danger is bound to present itself.